What are you putting IN your body?

What are you putting IN your body?

cleansing smoothieI’ve said it before and I’m saying it again…. Exercise is just a small part of the story when it comes to overall fitness and healthy living. Your mentality—your mindset and your commitment to yourself—are the most important factors. But you also need to pay careful attention to what you’re putting IN your body. You know that good, healthy food is important. But there’s an important step that a lot of people miss: CLEANSING.

Cleansing prepares your body to absorb and use ALL of those good nutrients that you’re eating. Preparing your body ahead of time to use and absorb what you eat is the step most people miss!

Think about this…. If you bought a fine vase, you wouldn’t display it on a table strewn with old magazines and television remotes, would you? Of course not. It would take away from the beauty and more importantly the function for which it was intended. The same is true with your body. Cleaning on the inside will prepare it to function the way it should, to the highest possible degree. That’s why I say—what you put in your body is just as important as what you do with it.

Cleansing is not as hard as you might think, either. I’ve found a really gentle cleanse that is easy on your body and can be done by the most squeamish person. By the way, I’m squeamish. (LOL!) So I was careful in choosing. I’ve always supported doing a cleanse, but in the past I didn’t necessarily recommend a particular cleansing program because some don’t have good scientific research to support their claims. However, I’ve found a cleanse now that gets consistently good results and has been confirmed by a number of well-designed clinical studies.
 

Why should you cleanse?

cleansing drinkWell, besides making you feel like a million bucks and kick-starting a healthy nutritional lifestyle, cleansing has two other huge benefits. First, it actually helps you lose fat, not muscle—including visceral fat (the abdominal fat deep within your core, around your organs) that is tied to a higher risk of heart attacks and Type 2 diabetes. It also helps your body flush out toxins—especially environmental toxins that you have absorbed over the years—which are stored in fat cells.

Other benefits include

  • Supporting healthy aging by reducing age-related tissue damage
  • Improving athletic performance for both men and women
  • Improving blood vessel health
  • Enhancing weight loss and improving body composition
  • Supporting long-term weight maintenance
     

One of the big differentiators in the cleanse I use is that it helps your whole body, all the way down to the cellular level! Not just your gastrointestinal tract, but also your liver, colon, circulation, and your lymphatic system. And it reduces inflammation throughout your body. Compared to people on a standard “heart-healthy” diet, both men and women on this cleansing plan lost more weight and more body fat (twice as much visceral fat) and saw greater improvements in cardiovascular health. They also found the plan convenient and easy to stick to, unlike the conventional dieters in the studies!
 

It’s no secret that cleansing is the best way to start your healthy lifestyle!

If you desire weight loss, better energy, performance training, or just aging gracefully, I can help connect you with the right system to meet your goals. The system I use is easy and flexible and comfortable for any busy lifestyle. On top of that, I’ll stick with you to help you stay with it and get the most out of the cleanse!

Cleansing is a great way to start your journey to finally reaching your goals and dreams. But it’s only one step. Consistent, good nutrition is also important. More talk on that coming up in my subsequent blogs!

Want to learn more about my cleansing program? Send me an email at info@wendyida.com!

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Put me in, Coach!

Put me in, Coach!

THE BEST KEPT SECRET TO REACHING YOUR GOALS!!

Are you feeling stuck while others seem to be getting their groove on? Have you ever wished you could press the fast-forward button to reach your goals and dreams too? Well, believe it or not, YOU CAN!

So have no fear because the answer is clear. The fact is… you may need a coach!

The best of the best have coaches. Actors like Tom Cruise, Julia Roberts, and Denzel Washington all have coaches. Business moguls like Larry Page of Google and Howard Shultz of Starbucks have coaches. That’s why they are great! I have a coach, too—and it has made all the difference in helping me move ahead at a faster pace.

What does a coach do? 

When you commit to a big life change, getting a coach may not be the first thing you think of. There are so many do-it-yourself guides, apps, websites, gyms, classes…. With all the information and tools out there, you can put together your own program. Right?

Well, maybe some can. There are lots of things people can do on their own. But it may be harder than it has to be. And the results won’t be as good or lasting as they could be. And the risk of failure—or giving up—are high! (Ask an experienced real estate agent how “For Sale by Owner” home sales work, and they’ll tell you: “Not well!”)

In the 1800s, the word coach was college slang for someone that helped “carry” a student over the finish line with exams. It was later used with sports teams, but originally it meant a one-on-one relationship. Someone that gets from where you are now to where you want to be in the future—that’s a coach, pure and simple.

A coach’s specific qualifications will depend on the subject area, but in all cases the coach brings three things to the table: structure, accountability, and my favorite: MOTIVATION!

Structure

A coach’s job is to help you get to your goal. This means, first, helping you understand your desires and set a good, achievable, realistic end goal—as well as interim goals to keep you on track.

What do I mean “achievable” and “realistic”? Think of it like this: if you’re five feet tall and an adult past your growing years, then “being 5’8” tall” is not a reasonable, achievable, or realistic goal for you! (No matter how much milk you drink or visualization you practice!) Working seriously toward that goal is only likely to make you less healthy and less happy—and anyone who says they can help you probably doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

As a coach, I would want to know instead, “Why do you say you want to be taller? What do you mean? What are you seeing in your head?” Is it a healthier you? More confident? Poised? Successful? Well, that’s different! Those are achievable—and height has nothing to do with them.

Besides understanding your desires and setting goals, a coach also helps you understand and tackle the work to get there. This is important, because there is so much information out there—some good, some not so good. You could read a whole library of books before finding an approach that works for you. Or… you can talk to a coach, who has read lots of those books, put those methods—and others—to the test, and helped people in circumstances similar to yours.

Today we’ll start with X and go on to Y…” “Next week, we’ll talk about Z…” A coach brings structure by setting the agenda—for the month, the week, the day, the hour, or just the next ten minutes—so you don’t have to stop and figure out what to do next. Instead you can keep your momentum and energy focused on working hard.

Accountability

This brings me to another thing every coach provides. Progressing along your path to success requires accountability. This CANNOT be overstated. If structure is the roadmap, accountability is what keeps you tuned up and ready to roll.

You might think you can have accountability by yourself or with an app. Well, let’s think about that. An app—like a book or a checklist—is just a tool for focusing your own willpower. It can be a good place to start. It can provide a little structure, maybe nag you with notifications. But when things get hard, it’s easy for you to stop checking in—to ignore or turn off the notifications, or even delete the app. And no one is there to ask you why!

Change is hard. Relying on your willpower alone can make you feel like a failure when things get tough. Face-to-face accountability with a real, human coach can keep you going even when you feel tired or frustrated.

What about a friend or group of friends? Again, yes, to a point. It is important to have friends that support you. But when you leave your comfort zone and start making tough changes, a friend may not be able to give you the accountability you need. After all, they like you and want to help—and seeing you struggle can be hard. A coach accepts the responsibility to push you even when it’s uncomfortable, and to encourage you even when you complain! This does not mean they will harm you—a good coach will never bully, belittle, or injure you, or push you to injure yourself. But when you experience discomfort (and you will!) she can help you deal with it and understand why it’s happening.

Motivation

So a coach gives you structure by confirming your destination and mapping out a way to get there. A coach also brings accountability, especially when things get tough. But there’s more. A coach gives you motivation. This is what keeps you moving down the path toward your goal—cheering you along, setting the next hurdles, and giving you perspective by reminding you why you wanted to change, and helping you see how far you’ve gone. A coach can’t do the work for you—that’s your job. But she can provide the structure to help you grow, get out of your comfort zone without getting hurt, and stay motivated.

So if you’re thinking about making a change in your life—a real, lasting, substantial change—a coach can give you the structure, accountability, and motivation you need to cross the finish line and embrace the future you desire and deserve.

Go for it! Put a coach in your back pocket today!

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Find peace. Get down to business.

Find peace. Get down to business.

I am still basking in the glow of Janelle Monáe’s words at the Grammy Awards last week: “We come in peace, but we mean business.” Wow.

Janelle Monae at the 60th Annual Grammy Awards - Show, New York, USA - 28 Jan 2018 Photo by Matt Sayles/ Invision/AP/REX/ShutterstockShe was talking about women in the music industry—and I am so proud of her and other women for seizing the creative reins, bringing their message to life, and calling out the culture of inequality in the industry. But in a more general sense, I find these are great words to live by, especially when you are working toward a goal of transforming your life. I’ll tell you why.

“We come in peace.”

If you are really going to prepare yourself for long-term change, one of the first things you need to do is find peace. In two ways.

First, you have to make peace with the past. Stop rehashing your old struggles—with parents, school mates, teachers, ex-es, bosses. Whatever ghosts of failures past you have (real or imagined), let them go. They do not define you. You have successfully woken up every day up to now. You are here. And that means you have a starting point. You have the ability to forgive yourself—for not being perfect, and also for expecting yourself to be perfect. And you can forgive other people for the same things. After all, they’re humans, too, just like you. This frees you to see the positive side of what you have been, and what you can become.

You also need to make room for peace in the present. This means claiming time for self-care. Indulge in a relaxing bubble bath. Spend some time alone to plan your week—maybe even try on your work outfits and set them out. Take a few minutes each day to sit quietly and let your mind roll to a stop. Meditation doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming, and it has long-lasting benefits. Just a moment to be thankful for the good things of the day, celebrate what you’ve achieved, and forgive yourself for things that didn’t go as planned, is all it takes to bring you back to the center—and then move again in a positive direction.

“We mean business.”

OK, now that you have laid the groundwork, you can approach those long-term changes the same way you approach your life’s work. Because it is your life’s work! The evidence of your life is you. Don’t just think or read about working out. Schedule it. Treat it like a doctor’s appointment. Don’t just collect healthy recipes. Treat the contents of your grocery cart like medicine—good things, in the right amounts. Find someone to whom you are accountable. Maybe that’s your spouse or a friend—or maybe you can hire a coach or trainer. Yes, making these kinds of changes takes commitment. Yes, it takes planning. Yes, it is work. (Although that doesn’t mean it can’t also be fun.) So take a business-like approach to keep yourself on track.

Come in peace, but mean business.

Good health, and the good life, are so much more than physical. And your mindset is the key to making a successful change. Physical changes are just the most visible aspect of the more important changes in focus, forgiveness, acceptance, and attitude. Make peace with your past. Make room for peace in the present. And mean business!

If you know someone who could use a boost, please pass this along!

Photo by Matt Sayles/ Invision/AP/REX/Shutterstock

The Resolution Trap

The Resolution Trap

It’s January! Time to make your New Year’s Resolution, right?

Right…?

Maybe not….

All cards on the table: I do NOT believe in making New Year’s Resolutions. Why not? Because, at the end of the day, in my experience, they just don’t work, and can even end up working against you. If you stick to your resolutions, you might experience short-term gains, but if you can’t, you’ll just wind up with long-term frustration.

What’s the matter with New Year’s Resolutions?

Think about how you might phrase a typical Resolution:

“In 2018, I resolve to….

“…eat more vegetables.”

“…exercise more.”

“…spend more time with my kids.”

The problem with these resolutions is the word “more”. What does “more” mean?

If you currently eat no veggies (just for the sake of argument!), and start eating a carrot a day, are you keeping your resolution? What if you drop to every other day? What if you stop eating carrots and switch to veggie pizza? Or processed veggie chips? Are you still being “good”?

The problem with the word “more” in these resolutions is that it’s not measurable. And most importantly, it doesn’t provide any information about what you actually want to achieve by making these kinds of changes.

You might think that a lack of structure in a resolution would make it easier to achieve. If you’re at zero, then anything is an improvement, right? But the looseness of these kinds of statements makes it easy to overdo it—and then feel like a failure if you can’t keep up the pace. It can also make it easy to “underdo” it and then taper off after a while when you don’t “feel” any different. Either way, you end up right back where you started—waiting for next year to make another resolution.

Let’s consider a different kind of resolution:

“In 2018, I resolve to….

“…get a promotion.”

“…get a new client every month.”

“…publish a book.”

Well, OK, these sound measurable, don’t they? The problem here is that too many of the factors influencing these outcomes are out of your control. You might do everything right, work your tail off, and win the love of your clients and management—but if your industry hits a rough patch or your company has lay-offs, you may still not be able to “keep” your resolution. Simply put, you can’t make resolutions for how other people are going to act.

These are just a couple of reasons why I don’t believe in making New Year’s Resolutions. But what I DO believe in is setting goals—and then living toward your goals. Goal-making is a PROCESS that starts with the one ingredient that resolutions often overlook: what you want to achieve, and who you want to become in the future.

With goal-making, it’s OK to start big and general, for example: “I want to have a healthier lifestyle.” But we don’t stop there. The next step is asking, “What does a healthier lifestyle mean?” or even better, “How will I know when I’m living a healthier lifestyle?

Maybe your answer to that question is, “I’ll know I’m healthier when my resting heart rate is less than 80 BPM,” or “I’ll know I’m healthier when my doctor says my cholesterol is in a healthy range.” So then, the next step could be to say, “OK, what can I do to improve my resting heart rate?

Now we’re getting somewhere, and we’re in a position to make a good, evidence-based plan with concrete actions. Both cardio and weight training have been demonstrated to improve resting heart rate. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommend at least 150 to 300 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise—or 75 to 150 minutes of vigorous exercise—every week, plus muscle-strengthening activities at least two days a week. Now we have a target to work toward. And if 2½ hours of brisk walking a week isn’t possible for you right now, you can set additional interim goals until you work up to that level.

This is just one example of one kind of goal. Your goals might relate to health and fitness, or nutrition, finances, your career path, or your family life. The key is the PROCESS: start with a vision of what you want your life to be like, and then gradually add definition to that vision until you arrive at specific, achievable goals with measurable results.

Besides PROCESS, the other big difference between making goals and making resolutions is GROWTH. Rather than just “keeping” a resolution, we continually advance toward our goals. And when we reach a goal, we celebrate and then set another—propelling ourselves along into the future, step by step.

In my last blog post, I mentioned the “Ten-Year Rule” — in ten years, which choices will you look back on and be glad you made? This is one technique you can use to get started thinking about long-term goals. I’ll talk more in a later blog post about other tips for goal-setting, the kinds of questions you can ask yourself, and the kind of plans you can make.

In the meantime, tell me—what kind of goals do YOU want to set? Not just for 2018—but for “future you”?

Write and let me know—I’m eager to help you take back your life!

Happy new year, everybody!

Maintaining Balance Amidst Holiday Chaos

Maintaining Balance Amidst Holiday Chaos

How are you managing this holiday season so far?  I’ll tell you why I ask.

For many of us, the holidays are a time of great joy. This time of year encourages the best in human nature to shine through. We see family and friends that we may not see any other time of year. We also can experience the joy of giving, be it a gift to family members or time spent helping those in need. I think we can all agree that the overall spirit of the holidays is one that we should all strive to achieve year round!

Unfortunately however, this time of year can also bring hectic schedules and unique pressures, along with stress and chaos, which can upend our otherwise healthy and focused mindsets.

What is it about this time of year that creates stress?

There are many potential triggers hidden amongst the mistletoe and festive music. Scheduling conflicts are a major stressor for all of us, and this is especially true during November and December.

In addition to your regular weekly or monthly schedule, the holiday brings a myriad of other time commitments waiting to be honored. You have to decide which ones you want or need to make a priority. Often, we overschedule ourselves during this time of year, not wanting to offend anyone. So we end up promising our time to every holiday party, volunteer event and children’s play we are invited to, but guess what?

That isn’t always the healthiest choice for you…right? 

It wears you out doesn’t it?  That’s not good! 

Trust me, I’ve had to make changes in my own life.  So I know how it feels.  

So, how can you prioritize and streamline your schedule for a holiday season that everyone can enjoy? 

  1. First, think about which holiday events you and your family most enjoy. Those should get first priority in scheduling.
  2. Next, consider the holiday events and invitations that are important – and why you consider them important? Has your granddaughter asked you to come see her play on the same night that your company party is being held?

I like to use the Ten Year Rule in these cases. In ten years, which choice will you look back and be glad you made? Instead of stressing out, create your holiday schedule based on your intrinsic values. Then, act with confidence. If you must decline an invitation, do so politely. When it’s appropriate, explain the reason you can’t volunteer or attend an event. I’ve had to tell people, “I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to make it. I’m volunteering that day, and the shelter is counting on me.” In my experience, most people will understand and even respect your decision to prioritize the things close to your heart.

Coordinating holiday schedules with your family can be even trickier. Whose home will host Christmas this year? Which sides of the family will you and/or your children celebrate with, and on which days? This can be the most challenging time of the holidays to finesse, and, sometimes, it’s impossible to avoid conflict. Work with every member of your family to find out what they’re expectations are – and don’t wait until the week before Christmas. Try to remain as flexible as possible – if you can’t be with your grown children on Christmas morning, make sure you demonstrate a willingness to celebrate on a different day. After all, the important thing is that you will all be able to celebrate as a family.

I wish you lots of love, health and happiness as you make your way through this joyful holiday season!

How do you maintain your sanity during the chaos of holiday scheduling?

Do you have a schedule that helps you decide when the holidays are celebrated with different branches of your family? Are there certain events or activities that you always make time for?

Write me and let me know – I’d love to hear from you!

Simple Diet Changes To Take Back Your Life

Simple Diet Changes To Take Back Your Life

As you all know, I’m a big believer in taking back your life at any age. In fact, I’ve been called “America’s #1 Expert on Looking Fit, Fierce and Fabulous After 40.” I believe that helping women just like you is my true calling in his life. However, as a 65-year-old mom and grandmother, I understand the insecurities and doubts that can creep in as you get older. Those same doubts can keep you from taking action day after day, year after year. That’s why today is the day to kick those doubts to the curb, and start taking back your life one step at a time. One of the best ways to get started is changing your diet, and the way you think about food.

Why is changing your diet – and the way you view food – so important? Because so many of us have a complicated, and sometimes unhealthy, relationship with food. Food is wonderful. The foods we eat feed our bodies, allowing us to achieve our goals and achieve optimal levels of health and wellness. However, those same foods can contain harmful ingredients, excessive fats and sugars and other additives that harm our health and keep us from reaching those same goals.

Get What You Need From Food 

Our ideal relationship with food should be one of balance. Educate yourself on what your body needs, and at what age. Which nutrients are key, and why are they important? Your first dietary goal should be to get what your body needs to be its best. That means enough protein, enough fiber, enough calcium … you get the idea. No diet should ever reduce your food intake to the point that you aren’t getting the nutrients you need to thrive. 

Minimize What You Don’t Need

Once you’ve ensured that your diet is meeting your body’s needs, start focusing on minimizing the things you don’t need. Yogurt, for instance, is a great source of protein, calcium and helpful gut bacteria. If you like yogurt, take a look at the brand you currently enjoy. How many grams of sugar does it have per serving? How does it compare to other brands? Is there a healthier option you could try? Kefir, a drinkable yogurt, is often lower in sugar and has been used as part of healthy diets for hundreds of years.  

Leave Room for What You Love

A diet that is too strict, with no room for treating yourself, is one of the fastest ways to failure. While you may maintain a diet like this for a while, eventually you’ll start craving those favorite foods that you no longer allow yourself. Plus, if you do slip up and indulge, you’ll feel like you’ve failed, which makes you more likely to call it quits. So leave room for a little bit of what you love. There are many ways to do this – you can find a lower calorie alternative, or use portion control to keep track of how much you’re eating. Allow yourself a treat on the days you’ve worked especially hard at the gym, when you’ve burned enough calories to minimize the impact of your indulgence. And, lastly, enjoy! It IS okay to treat ourselves. It is NOT okay to binge eat ourselves into a coma.

At 65 years young, I know that it takes focus, dedication and discipline to live your best life regardless of age, and this includes a healthy and balanced approach to the foods you eat. Cleansing is also important. Cleanses give you more energy, focus, help you to absorb all the good nutrients u take in, helps to avoid illnesses and gets rid of body fat. In fact, there is a 30 day cleanse I use all quite oftenIf you’re interested in finding out more about the cleanse I use,  just send me an email.  

I love helping people change their relationship with food and fitness.  

 

Tell me, how have you changed your relationship with food. 

What strategies do you use to maintain a great relationship with the foods that nourish you?

Let me know in the comments below!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!

It’s that time of year again and I want to express my thankfulness outwardly for my health, your health, and our piece of mind.

I am so grateful for our desire, determination and willingness to be the best versions of ourselves. I am thankful for my family, my friends, new opportunities, stepping stones, growth, learning and teaching.

I have to confess, there’s something I need to tell you…

I AM THANKFUL FOR YOU!

Thank you for messaging me, sharing stories about how you’ve reclaimed the happiness in your life. Thank you for your encouragement. Thank you for allowing me to share my story with you. I am so grateful that, together, we ARE and WILL CONTINUE to live the life we so desire. 

We are FIT, we are FIERCE and we are FABULOUS!

I know we’ve all had our share of trials and tribulations, but that is a part of growth. Overcoming the struggles of everyday life, and the limitations that society places on us is a true testament to our resilience. Life has a tendency to throw everything at us at once. We find ourselves constantly on the go, focusing on what’s to come and how we’re going to execute our next plan. 

When things get hectic, I find thanksgiving to be the perfect time of year to slow down, pause and take some time for self-reflection. Here in our community, we’ve discussed a range of issues including: self-love, self-worth, becoming healthy, staying healthy, getting our sexy back, being risk takers, the power of our minds, the power behind focusing on and realizing our goals. As I look back at how far we’ve come, I can’t help but be proud of our progress.

We are a family, and family looks out for one another.

Thanksgiving is one of those holidays where we often go overboard with what we consider treats. Here’s a friendly thanksgiving reminder and challenge from my heart to yours: Please don’t lose sight of your goals and what you’ve already accomplished. Remember… We eat for the person we are tomorrow. It IS okay to treat ourselves. It is NOT okay to binge eat ourselves into a coma.

Here are 10 of my favorite thanksgiving tips:

  1. Use smaller plates
  2. Eat smaller portions 
  3. Make healthy versions of your favorite dishes
  4. Make it a family event to get in a quick and fun 20 min workout
  5. Dance! Nothing like a good tune to get that heart rate fired up
  6. Try not to eat too late at night. Give those carbs time to digest
  7. Eat slowly. Give your brain a chance to register that your stomach is full
  8. Drink water. Don’t confuse thirst for hunger. Aim for 1 glass of water per glass of alcohol
  9. Eat breakfast and lunch. This can stop you from overeating at dinner
  10. Have that desert. You can still try that savory dish! Focus instead on moderation

Our bodies WILL thank us the next day. The year is almost over, go out with a big bang. Stay true to your health. It should be your #1 priority. We must set examples for others to follow. That in itself is an outward expression of gratitude.

It’s always a pleasure to chat with you all and share. I get such a rewarding feeling hearing from y’all. Again, I thank you. After thanksgiving, let me know how you’ve spent your thanksgiving weekend, what you ate (I’m always open to recipes), if you’ll have them tasty leftovers for days, and how it felt saying no to overeating those delicious foods. 

Thank you. 

I appreciate you.

I’m so proud of your achievements. 

I’d love to know below… What will you be thankful for NEXT YEAR? 

Whatever it is, make a plan for it TODAY.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

5 Ways to Feel Sexy After 40

5 Ways to Feel Sexy After 40

Halloween’s come and gone, with kids everywhere dressing up, running around and experiencing pure joy. It’s a beautiful thing to see, whether it’s neighborhood children or your own kids and grandkids. But did you dress up? If you’re anywhere near my age (and I’m 65), probably not. Did you dress up when you were younger? If so, when did you stop – and why? Dressing up as someone or something else can be sexy for adults.

Some Simple Tips For A Happier & Heathier Life

Many people seem to lose touch with their sexual selves as they get older, because they may no longer feel they are or can be sexy. Fortunately, that’s not true (hey, ask Betty White!). Here are five great ways to explore and enhance your sexual self at 40 – and for decades to come.

Try Roleplay

Now is the perfect time of year to play with the idea of roleplay. Whether you dress up as a sexy pirate or a naughty nurse, costumes can be liberating for both parties in a relationship, allowing you to explore new roles and have fun at the same time!

Take Care of Yourself

You may be asking yourself, “What does this have to do with feeling sexy after 40?” The answer is everything. Regardless of your body type, if you’re not taking care of yourself physically and emotionally, you’re probably not going to feel sexy and confident. I find this to always be true for myself. If I’m not eating right, not exercising and not tending myself, I don’t have the sexy confidence I need to have a healthy sexual relationship.

Try Blind Dates

Blind dates are a great idea – sexy, fun and exciting. I’m not talking about the usual blind date, where you meet someone you’ve actually never seen before, though those can be fun too. A few months ago, I got a text simply saying, “I’ve noticed you around, and I can’t take my eyes off of you. Would you like to go out to dinner on Friday?” It was my husband, who proceeded to treat the whole thing like a first date with a crush. It’s a refreshing way to reconnect, and it makes you even more grateful for the relationship you have.

Connect with People You Admire

Many of us are acutely aware of those around us – at work, at church, in our neighborhoods. Find a role model, someone who is your age or older, who seems to really own their confidence and sensuality. Make friends, talk with them, and learn more about how and why they refuses to give up their groove. Surrounding yourself with people you admire is always a great life philosophy – and who knows, maybe some of their joie de vivre will be contagious. Use the examples of other powerful, sensual, strong women to develop some affirmations about your own power and sexuality, and remind yourself of them daily.

Contact is Key

There are a lot of things that seem to stand in the way of a vibrant sex life – confidence, the demands of family, insecurities. One thing that is absolutely vital to help you and your partner maintain a healthy sexual relationship is pure human contact. We often take it for granted, but it feeds our spirit and strengthens our relationship. When contact with the one you love becomes a regular part of your lives, it will automatically lead to a stronger and more connected sexual relationship, regardless of age!

Connect with me today! 🙂

What are some of your favorite daily affirmations? Let me know below.

Keep The Mind Healthy To Keep The Body Healthy

Keep The Mind Healthy To Keep The Body Healthy

In my line of work, I focus so much on maintaining our bodies with diet and exercise, but do you know what else is important? Keeping our minds healthy is also important. A healthy mind will keep you energized and positive, so you can focus on achieving all of your goals.

Keep The Mind Healthy To Keep The Body Healthy

Our minds and bodies are connected in ways that are closer than you might realize. So in order to keep our whole selves happy, we need to find ways to relax, decompress, and clean up what’s going on in our heads. If our thoughts are distracted, then we can’t focus on the task at hand–be it office work, cooking dinner, or doing our favorite exercise routine. So what can you do to make sure that you’re keeping your mind clear and healthy?

Here are the ways I do it:

Clear Your Mind With Meditation

A great way to clear our mind is to meditate, but don’t worry, it doesn’t take an hour of listening to a gong in a yoga studio to meditate. Just take a few moments here and there to take a deep breath and focus on your thoughts. As every thought pops into your head, dismiss it, throw it out of your mind in that moment, and try to clear your mind to stillness. It only takes a few moments to help ease the nerves.

Release Your Thoughts By Writing Them Down

Journaling can be another great way to organize your thoughts and clear your mind. Writing things down on paper can make them more manageable, less frightening and therefore, less stressful. Plus, it’s like someone is listening to you and your concerns!

Take A Break With A Good Book

You can also read a book. Reading is a wonderful way to cast off your own life for a little while and immerse yourself in a story, so that you can come back to your daily routine feeling refreshed and inspired!

I hope these tips help you as much as they have helped me because my goal as a Lifestyle Coach and Fitness Expert is to keep you informed so you can make choices that will improve your life.  

That said…

Are you ready for the next level? 

Are you ready to stop wasting your precious time?

Then take just a few more baby steps!

Let’s discuss how we can get you where you want to be. 

Contact me today! 🙂

How do you answer the question – “How are you today?” I want to know. Share with me below.

Body Image Is Overrated – Your Health Is The Foundation To Focus On

Body Image Is Overrated – Your Health Is The Foundation To Focus On

There’s no question that we live in a very image-oriented society. Sad as it is, there’s just no getting away from that. But the reality is that while your appearance may have an impact on some things, for most people, body image is somewhat overrated. 

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look better, but it shouldn’t be your primary motivation or the main thing you use to judge how effective lifestyle changes have been at improving your life. 

The bottom line? Focus on your health first, and then let your body and appearance follow behind. 

The reason this matters is simple – if you aren’t healthy, you’ll simply have a harder time being able to feel your best and look your best. Focusing on your health lets you lay down the foundation that will allow you to then move onto your body image. 

What does this mean for you? For starters, focus more on a good, healthy overall lifestyle change. A nutrition plan combined with regular exercise might not always help you lose weight as fast as those fad diets, but it will lead you to more stable weight loss over time. 

Simply put, it’s important for you to build long-term plans for your health instead of minor changes that seem like they’ll work. 

Keeping all of this in mind until next time, remember this and start building your blueprint for a healthier life. It’s the first step towards not only a healthier you but eventually a healthier looking you as well. 

To Transform Your Life…It May Be Time To Change The Way You Think

To Transform Your Life…It May Be Time To Change The Way You Think

Another day has gone by…WOW!  Or should I say another week. OMG time seems to speed up with each passing year which means there is no time to waste. 

And as if we didn’t need a reminder of how precious our time is…my heart goes out to the victims and families of the mass shooting in Las Vegas.

I personally understand the despair of a life gone too soon and too quickly.

One of the most overlooked aspects of life on this planet is that we take things for granted.  We are not meant to be here forever nor is our purpose here meant only to entertain ourselves.  There’s a bigger picture and we have to find the lesson.  For me it’s to be in service to others.  To teach, preach, guide, support and live out life’s true essence with quality, purpose and as an obedient soldier of God.  

The underlying aspect of feeling good and having good physical health as well as taking advantage of every freakin moment on earth is first….changing your MINDSET!  Although it is so often ignored, it can have a major impact on your life.

It’s true – the way that you think can have a huge impact on your health. 
OUTLOOK and ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!

Think about your overall attitude during the day. Do you wake up grumpy or down in the dumps? How did you feel physically during that time period? Headaches, body aches, nausea, and more could all be issues that arise from something as simple as a bad attitude or outlook on the day.

How is your attitude?  Do you need help changing your mindset? I did once and it resulted in a life of transformation physically and mentally.  So many of my clients have benefited as a result. If you too are looking for positive change and transformation I’d be happy to serve you and share my vision with you as well. Feel free to contact me.

That poor attitude can make it harder to stay motivated, to eat properly, exercise regularly, and keep with a fitness regimen. Or, for example, a person may feel that they’re too old to get the figure they’re dreaming of. As a result, they fail to take the steps needed to actually achieve it. 

Combine this with research that suggests that your thoughts and attitude can impact physical healing, and it becomes clear that for anyone who wants to live the longest, happiest, healthiest life possible, it’s important to take a closer look at how you think and behave. It could do more for your health than you realize. 

Keep this in your thoughts as you go through the day, and be sure to mind your mindset. If you do, you’ll be one step closer to the healthy life you want and deserve. 

Until next time, stay healthy!

I challenge you to make one change by making a shift in your thinking and share it with me. That Simple! So what’s the Plan Stan? Your comments are welcome below…

Fall Is Coming – Are You Meeting Your Goals?

Fall Is Coming – Are You Meeting Your Goals?

Let me start by saying that I hope you’re living and feeling great! Fall is steadily approaching, and as the weather cools and the leaves change, it’s easy to lose sight of the goals that you’ve set for yourself over the summer OR since the beginning of the year. Remember those resolutions?  🙂  Are you on track?  Still not too late!

Everything from the weather to the types of food that many people eat will change during Autumn months, and it’s important that we don’t just forget about those beach bodies as we enter cooler weather. Doing so can cause you to lose the gains you’ve worked so hard on. So, while you may not have totally met all of your goals so far, it’s well worth taking a look at where you are currently and where you’re going. Making sure that you’re on track for meeting your goals is important – now more than ever

I can say with confidence I AM on track and meeting my goals as of this moment.  First I’m making sure you get the message on what’s hot and what’s not so you can keep up instead of always playing catch up.  And you should know by now that even though I preach and teach I also believe in walking my talk. 

So one of my goals has been to stay in association with like-minded people.  As a result I met Chike Okonkwo and a friend from the show ‘Being Mary Jane’ recently.  Part of my energy comes from the excitement of meeting my goals!

There are a few things to review as fall approaches, including:

  • How’s your diet?

Not just whether or not you’re losing weight, but how easy is it for you to stick to your nutrition plan, and what steps can you make to make it easier? 

  • What fall-centric options can you add to your nutrition plan?

Traditional stews, chilis, and soups may not be a perfect fit, but it’s likely that you can find numerous vegan replacements that will fill you up without adding calories. 

  • Can you adjust your exercise plans?

With cooler weather, some options may be easier to stick with than before – a longer run without worrying about overheating, for instance. 

With a few simple adjustments, you can make the autumn months work for you and your fitness goals. Think about your options and start planning for the upcoming autumn season. You’ll be glad you did. 

How about you?  Are you meeting your goals?  If not, I’ve got solutions to help get you there.  You know my number.  Call it!  🙂   In the meantime…

Until next time, stay healthy!