As we close out this ridiculous year of 2020 that will forever be in our history books, I realize that I’ve had multiple major history making news and events myself and let me tell you, they weren’t easy for me either. There were days when I struggled because of the many things that were going on in and around me. I think we all did!

Mine eyes have seen and experienced a relentless chain of events…deaths, sicknesses, suicides, breakups, stresses and losses we all could never have imagined. I would sit still each time something happened and whisper OMG…OMG…OMG!

Although no one is ever exempt from the trials and tribulations of life, Here’s is what I am VERY sure of. We CAN control some things, but NOT ALL things. So I like to focus on those things I CAN control rather than what I can’t.  And we DO have control over what we do, what we say and how we react to things. We CAN control how we choose to handle unforeseen things that enter our lives and we CAN choose to learn and grow from it. That is my go to and focus when a crisis happens. 

Oh and with regard to healing the pain, anger, suffering and sadness that comes with the territory…Father Time heals ALL. 

So I urge YOU to take that theory out for a test drive. 

In the meantime, while you’re waiting on time to soften the blow show yourself some mercy. How do you do that? The way I do that is…I baby myself.  I handle myself with lots of care by focusing on things that bring me joy. And one of the things that brings me joy is Christmas!  Yayyyyyy!  

For many of us, Christmas is all about tradition—the elf on the shelf, Christmas trees and décor, Christmas stockings, and gifts. But what I love most about Christmas is the time spent with my family. I love hearing their stories and hearing them laugh—hearing myself laugh with them.

One memory that comes to mind when I say Christmas is…me running out of the house and down the street chasing my daughter who had a pie that I wanted. She was yelling: “you told me to hide it”!  I hollered back “I changed my mind!”  Yes yes…those were good times for sure! 😊

That great memory is firing me up as I sit here RIGHT NOW!!! YES YES and OH YES! I am so filled with the holy Christmas spirit that I can’t sit still (just like I was at thanksgiving). 

Yes this is going to be a different Christmas, but hey, we don’t back down! After all, it’s still the most wonderful time of the year.

So let’s stay positive and see what we can create. To rev up that holiday energy and keep it steamy here’s some ideas that work for me this year…

Go Wild On Christmas Decorations

Decorate your home—put up your Christmas tree, adorn your fireplace with beautiful decorations, and be creative. 

Put up Christmas lights even outside. Set up a Santa Claus by the door to cheer passersby. Make your house as festive as possible. Why not go all out this year!

Decorating your home is also an excellent way to keep yourself busy while you’re on lockdown. But also, setting up Christmas decorations will surely make you feel the Christmas spirit. 

Organize A Secret Santa

Gift giving is always one of the best parts of Christmas. You can set up a Secret Santa with your families or with your neighbors. If you have families living out-of-state, you may want to set it up earlier to make time for shipping. How to set up a socially distanced Secret Santa? There are platforms like or (that’s what I’ve been using for years) that lets you set up Secret Santa online.

Get Creative With Christmas Cards

Get in touch with your creative side and make your own Christmas cards this year. Take your own photo or design your card and send them out to your family and friends along with your gifts. It’s personal and so much more fun.

Schedule A Time With Your Loved Ones

This is the most important part of all.  You can shop for all the food that you want, but if you don’t have your loved ones around you, it won’t mean a thing, right? So what you can do is schedule a video call with your loved ones to celebrate Christmas 2020.  I did that for thanksgiving and it was wonderful. We had a relaxing dinner together, shared memories, told jokes and were comforted in knowing that everyone was safe and sound. 

Try to Celebrate your Christmas safely this season but have loads of fun! Don’t let anyone or anything spoil your joy. 

Stay focused. Stay strong and create beautiful memories.



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My Fav Quote This Month – 

“Be present in all things and thankful for all things.” – Maya Angelo